Spoiled Oilfield Wife

This is not your usual "spoiled oilfield wife" bumper sticker story. As long as I've known my husband he has been a VERY diligent and hard worker in the oil and gas industry. He's worked out of town, in town and 24-7 for as long as I can remember. He's had a phone glued to his head for the past 4 years...much longer I'm sure but that's as long as I've known him :) When we got married and decided to have children we both agreed I would stay home to raise our kids while he went to work. This was an easy decision when you've worked for a company for 9 years and your making good money. So security is something I thought we wouldn't have to worry about. Recently my husband who I once thought was invincible was laid off. It hit me like a ton of bricks because I never once expected it. Mostly because I'm his wife so I'm his biggest fan and I watch him go out of his way to do the best job he can when he's there and even more when he's not. So in my mind I always thought any company couldn't afford to lose a guy like him. A major part of the oilfield industry I've learned is politics, it's who you know not what you know. So they let him go. At first I was mad I mean pregnant girl, hormones raging ticked off. He just recently had knee surgery so he can't exactly run out and get another job with one good leg and crutches. On top of that I'm 7 months pregnant so now they've laid off a guy with one leg and a new dependent on the way. I mean talk about a blow to a guys confidence who has agreed to support his family and now there is a fear he can't do that. The day after he got laid off I found myself praying pretty much all day. Praying for a new job at first but then God kind of slapped me (that's usually the only way He gets me to listen up and give up control) with reality and made me see that our roles as husband and wife were reversed. Even though I can't financially support our family right now I have to be my husbands emotional support and remind him that I'm still his biggest fan. I mean that's what I agreed to didn't I? "For better or worse, for richer or poorer." I like to think I'm always a good support system for my husband but its easy to lose focus of that when you've got a one year old who needs you 24/7. Once I focused my mind on that it was like everything else fell into place and I was at complete peace. I don't usually stay upset about things for long I usually go into survival mode pretty quickly so once I started calling about health insurance, life insurance and all the other things we were losing with this lay off I started to feel better. My husband made a commitment to take care of me and our children and he's never once stopped doing that. I've realized now that support or taking care of us is not about a job or finances it's about the man he is to me and our kids. I'm "spoiled" not because he can buy me things but because he loves me without condition and would go to the ends of the earth for me. Now is my chance to prove I feel the same about him since we will be spending so much time together now :) I'm going to embrace this lay off as a time for his knee to heal properly and a special time he gets to spend with Sadie that he wouldn't get if he was still working. She will only be "the baby" for two more months and how lucky are we that we get to spend this time together as a family. The perfect job will come at the right time. I know this because my God never waivers. If He's not worried then why should I be? I'm so thankful my husband chose me to be his wife and there is no one else I'd rather go through this life with. He "spoils" Sadie and I everyday with the man he is and I'm forever grateful to him for that.

"So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own."  Matthew 6:31-34